Tension: I don’t believe I can find the motivation.
When my energy is low, and I can’t stop being trapped in the maze created by the tension that the energy I’m putting into the world isn’t going to be understood or valued, I often reach for this tech to reduce that tension. The tech of cultivating gratitude and harnessing the “good positive” energy of those in your life who value you will allow you to do the “hard” work before you.
By reflecting on the things we are grateful for, we can tap into a powerful source of motivation and inspiration that can help us achieve our goals and live more fulfilling lives. Whether you're feeling stuck in a rut or simply looking for a way to boost your energy levels, practicing gratitude can be a powerful tool for transformation and growth. So let's dive in and explore the many benefits of cultivating a grateful mindset!
““It is not joy that makes us grateful; it is gratitude that makes us joyful.””
Step By Step
Begin by writing a letter expressing your gratitude to another person.
In the letter, focus on highlighting all the positive qualities and actions of the other person that you appreciate.
Be specific about how these actions have personally helped you. For example, if the person is good at giving feedback, explain how receiving their feedback has made you more aware of the impact of your behavior on others.
Acknowledge any cultural or personal discomfort you may feel about expressing your feelings and appreciation.
Emphasize the importance of overcoming these barriers and share your genuine gratitude with the other person.
Remind yourself to ensure that all your expressions of gratitude are genuine and heartfelt.
Send them an email, letter, or text message. Optionally read it to them
Example Letter
Dear [Name of the Person],
I hope this letter finds you well. I wanted to take this opportunity to express my deep appreciation for your remarkable qualities and the positive impact they have had on my life. It is important for me to acknowledge the ways in which your actions have specifically helped me grow and develop as an individual.
I want to commend your exceptional skill in providing feedback. Your ability to offer constructive criticism and insightful observations has been truly invaluable to me. Your feedback gave me a clearer understanding of how my behavior affects others. This newfound awareness has prompted me to be more mindful of my actions and their impact, fostering personal growth and self-awareness.
I am also grateful for your genuine support and encouragement. Your unwavering belief in my abilities has fueled my motivation and confidence. Knowing that I have your trust and backing has given me the strength to pursue my goals and overcome obstacles along the way. Your steadfast presence in my life has inspired and motivated me constantly.
I also want to acknowledge your exceptional listening skills. Whenever I needed a sounding board or someone to confide in, you have always been there with open ears and an open heart. Your attentiveness and empathy have created a safe space for me to express my thoughts and feelings, and I cannot thank you enough for that. Your willingness to listen without judgment has given me profound comfort and understanding.
Lastly, I want to express my admiration for your ability to unite people. Your charisma and inclusiveness have fostered a sense of community and belonging in our shared spaces. Your talent for creating connections and building relationships has enriched my life with meaningful connections and lasting friendships.
I understand that expressing emotions and appreciation can feel awkward or uncomfortable in some cultures. However, I believe it is essential to transcend those barriers and convey our genuine gratitude to those who have positively impacted my life. I encourage you to embrace this vulnerability and share your own sentiments with those who deserve to hear them.
Again, thank you for your remarkable qualities, unwavering support, and invaluable contributions to my personal growth. Your presence in my life has made a profound difference, and I am truly grateful for everything you have done.
With heartfelt appreciation,
Jason Reichl
Questions For Getting The Most out of This Tech
How have the other person's actions and qualities positively impacted my life?
In what ways have I personally benefited from receiving feedback from this person?
How has becoming aware of my behavior's impact on others enhanced my self-awareness?
What challenges or discomfort do I anticipate in expressing my gratitude, and how can I overcome them to share my genuine appreciation?
Why do this fucking thing?
This tech has the potential to foster positive transformation in your relationship with the person you are writing the letter for. Research has shown that expressing gratitude and appreciation not only benefits the recipient but also has a positive impact on you as an individual. By recognizing and acknowledging the qualities and actions of the other person, you become more attuned to what you value in them, and how to access those values inside of yourself.
